Emotional wounds are deeply rooted scars imprinted in our souls due to major heartbreaks—wounds that linger beneath the surface. A person carrying emotional wounds bears a heavy burden in silence, unable to express their pain. They often mask this sorrow with a smiling face, concealing the depth of their struggle.
What causes emotional pain? It could stem from the loss of someone close to your heart, rejection, betrayal in a love relationship, childhood neglect, or emotional isolation. This pain can leave you drowning in grief and loss. People often neglect these emotional wounds because it’s easier to hide them than confront them. On the outside, they may appear perfectly normal, but on the inside, they are distressed and struggling. They master the art of hiding their feelings, always trying to adjust without expressing their emotional needs. Though they may seem strong, they are incredibly vulnerable, emotionally weak, and fearful of facing similar painful situations. As a result, they tend to avoid reality, believing that hiding is easier than confronting the truth. Instead of taking steps to heal themselves, they seek external emotional support, which often leads to their biggest illusion—that someone else can heal what lies within.
Emotional wounds are like an invisible weight of heartbreak, an unspoken ache that shapes behavior. These individuals grapple with fear, insecurities, and self-doubt. They feel unworthy of love, unable to trust others easily. When someone truly loves them, they may sabotage the relationship out of fear of rejection or abandonment. This creates emotional barriers to shield themselves from further pain.
Why do emotional wounds feel unforgettable?
Emotions are deeply connected to the subconscious mind, which processes and operates through feelings. When someone experiences a hurtful situation, they are overwhelmed by heavy, unforgettable emotions. This grief leaves a profound negative impact on their subconscious.
The subconscious mind stores habits, deep beliefs, and memories, all of which are tied to emotions—whether positive or negative. Your circumstances, environment, relationships, and personal experiences play a significant role in shaping your belief system, which becomes deeply rooted in the subconscious. Emotional wounds are a form of deeply ingrained hurtful memories, creating a negative belief system tied to specific situations.
Healing is the only way to cure these wounds and erase them from the subconscious mind.
Steps to Heal Emotional Wounds
I’m going to share the tips from my personal healing journey, which I followed to heal my emotional wounds. All the steps are authentic and well-researched.
1. Acceptance
Imagine you’re hungry but hesitate to ask for food. How does that feel? Would you ever be able to get relief from hunger? No, because until you recognize and accept what you feel emotionally, you won’t be able to heal. You first need to accept that, “Yes! I’ve had a bad experience that caused me distress, and now I want to completely release it and become a new version of myself.”
2. Journaling
I believe journaling is the best way to release your pain when you can’t share it with anyone else. Personally, I used to write my most painful and disgusting memories on paper and then flush them away. It gave me instant relief. Afterward, I would write the five most positive aspects of those painful memories. For example: If someone cheated on you and you now struggle to trust others, try to see the positive side of the situation. Perhaps God removed that person from your life so you can be ready for something better. In this way, you can replace your bad memories with positive perspectives about the situation.
3. Increase Your Self-Love
My lovely readers, you can’t imagine how self-love can change your life. This has been the best practice I’ve experienced in my whole life. Now, I don’t need validation from anyone. It has increased my beauty, intelligence, and self-compassion—everything I was once seeking from outside. Try to improve yourself, change your habits, and grow. Learn new things and be happy with yourself. Do what you love to do.
4. Connect with Your Friends and Loved Ones
People who are deeply wounded often isolate themselves from others. While isolation isn’t bad if it’s for genuine reasons like healing, meditation, or spending time with nature, it becomes problematic when it’s used to avoid engaging with the world. Even I don’t like crowds, but I do so for a good reason. If you feel peaceful and healed being alone, that’s fine, but don’t use isolation as an escape because you’re not confident enough to engage with the world. Connect with trustworthy people and share your feelings. If you feel comfortable, sharing your painful memories can help release them. Spend time with those who truly love you.
5. Affirmations
Affirmations help reprogram your subconscious mind and replace negative memories with positivity. However, unconscious affirmations won’t help much and can backfire if done with doubt. Be confident and trust that the universe is working on your behalf. When you do affirmations with full acceptance, they will work for you.
6. Meditation
Meditation connects you with a higher power, giving you relief and peace of mind. It heals your deep emotional wounds from the root. In a meditative state, you can easily access your subconscious and reprogram it with positive affirmations. Meditation also connects you with spirituality and universal guidance. Here’s something I used, and it worked 100% for me: While meditating, pray to divine powers, accepting your painful memories and asking for help in releasing them. Call upon divine forces to help you release the pain and bring forth your authentic self.
7. Connect with Nature
Nature is a natural healer. When you spend time in the presence of greenery, birds, lakes, or hills, you receive a sense of peace. Natural elements provide everything selflessly, and being around them fills you with positivity, inner peace, and healing. Share your grief and painful memories with nature. They won’t tell anyone, and you will feel relief.
8. Help Others
Helping others provides soul satisfaction. Don’t believe me? Try it once! You’ll feel happy and content from the inside, and it will help you heal your emotional wounds. Do you know about karma? When you give selflessly, it will come back to you tenfold.
